Kids really want to have a connection with the adults that are their caretakers. These people can be parents, older siblings, grandparents, foster parents, and adoptive parents.
With Children of Trauma, there is a deep seated “need” to push those who are the closest away. They misbehave to make the ones who protect them want to go away. They spend time isolating themselves and trying to care for themselves. They spend time yelling, screaming, and breaking things.
Despite this, we need to spend time with our kids allowing them to bond. They need to feel valued and special. They need to know that everything they have been taught about being of no value, simply isn’t true. So, what can we do? do things together. Make the mundane special.