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Books for adults

Three Little Words

Ashley Rhodes-Courter

This book was written by a girl who spent many years in the foster care system in Tampa, Florida. It gave me a lot of insight into what foster kids are thinking and the fears and frustrations they encounter. I was even surprised to learn why so many kids still have anxiety after their adoptions are finalized.

I think it is a must read, especially for those of us who adopted children out of the foster care system. It will definitely change how you think about their situations.

Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems

Richard Ferber
Does your kid get up in the middle of the night? Does she have trouble getting to sleep? Is he a sleepwalker? Does she have night terrors? This book has tons of tips to help kids get to sleep and stay asleep.

Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew

Sherrie Eldridge

Parenting with Love & Logic

Foster Cline
Jim Fay

Responsibility is learned through practice. In Love and Logic, parents learn to help children do well, not through threats or punishments. Children learn to control their own lives through responsible problem solving.

From Chaos to Calm

Janet E. Heininger
Sharon K. Weiss

This book is targeted towards families that are in chaos. If you kid challenges you all the time.

The idea is to help parents be proactive, set goals, cope with stalling, and avoid traps.

The Connected Child

Karyn B. Purvis
David R. Cross
Wendy Lyons Sunshine

The Connected Child is for parents of children from other countries, troubled backgrounds, and special needs/emotional needs.

This book seeks to build bonds of affection and trust. Effectively deal with learning and behavioral issues. Discipline children without making them feel threatened.

Yes They Are All Mine

Linda Dyson

Linda and her husband Doug have eight children, many of them fostered and then adopted through the foster care system. This book hopes to provide insight into this way of being a parent. It also seeks positive change in the foster care system.

When Love Is Not Enough: A Guide to Parenting Children with RAD

Nancy L. Thomas

I, personally, had trouble with this book. It seemed disorganized and difficult to read. There was a great deal of repetition in the text--which contrary to re-emphasizing a point--didn't add much to the learning experience.

The book goes out of its way to depict children of trauma as being nearly unreachable without serious intervention on the part of the parent. I found much of the book far too extreme, relying on dominating and coercing a child rather than nurturing a child including some rather troubling restraint techniques.

I personally can't recommend this book.

Connecting With Kids Through Stories: Using Narratives To Facilitate Attachment In Adopted Children

Denise B. Lacher

This book is recommended by Dr. Gregory Keck -- co-author of Adopting the Hurt Child and Parenting the Hurt Child.

This book is designed to help parents form stories that can help children connect to them--often a seemingly impossible task.

Adopting the Hurt Child: Hope for Families With Special-Needs Kids : A Guide for Parents and Professionals

Gregory C. Keck
Regina M. Kupecky

This book is a critical read for anybody trying to decide whether to adopt a child from an abusive background. Adoption is not to be taken lightly and this book does not attempt to sugar-coat this way of growing your family.