Yes They Are All Mine

Linda Dyson

Linda and her husband Doug have eight children, many of them fostered and then adopted through the foster care system. This book hopes to provide insight into this way of being a parent. It also seeks positive change in the foster care system.

"The System"

The foster care system is a bit of a hodge podge across the USA.  It has been designed to protect children and remove them from harm's way.  There is definitely a challenge surrounding how to identify which children really need that protection.  As a society, we don't want to be in the habit of removing kids from their mom's and dad's for no reason--having this happen is a traumatic experience on so many levels.  Children often blame themselves for the bio-parent's inadequacies. 

They don't understand "normal" thinking that:

Iowa Foster Adoptive Parents Association

From the IFAPA site:

IFAPA is a membership organization serving foster and adoptive parents in Iowa. Membership in the association is FREE for Iowa's licensed foster parents and adoptive parents. Social workers, agencies, and other interested parties may join the association as a supporting member for $25 per year. Membership benefits include:

*Free Training Classes Beneficial to Foster/Adoptive Parents
*Foster Care and Adoption Related Publications
*FREE or Low-Cost Events
*Monthly & Bi-Monthly Newsletters
*Legislative Bulletin

Oregon Department Of Human Services

Address 1: 
500 Summer St. NE E62
Salem, OR
ZIP/Post Code: 

From the Oregon Department of Human Services Site

Adoption & Safe Families Act (ASFA)

A child's sense of time is different from an adult's...
...a year can seem like forever to a child.

In 1997, Congress made major changes to the federal child abuse and neglect law. These changes became the Adoption and Safe Families Act (ASFA). ASFA focuses on the health and safety of a child. Oregon law already supported that main goal.

Washington State Depart of Social and Health Services


From the DSHS Children's Administration Site:

In 2003 there were 1204 adoptions of children in custody of Washington State's Department of Social and Health Services (DSHS), with more children still awaiting adoptive homes.

The purpose of the adoption program is to meet the permanency needs of children who are in the care and custody of DSHS. DSHS strives to find safe and stable families that can best meet the needs of the child.

Georgia Center Adoption & Foster Care Resources and Support

Mission Statement: The mission of The Georgia Center for Resources and Support is "to establish a seamless, comprehensive support network of post placement services to strengthen adoptive and foster families throughout Georgia".

2250 North Druid Hills Road
Suite 145
Atlanta, Georgia 30329

Toll free telephone: 1.866.A.PARENT
Atlanta telephone: 404.929.0401
Fax: 404.929.0405

State of New Jersey Department of Children and Families Info Session

01/16/2009 - 09:00

Sussex Avenue School
307 Sussex Avenue
Newark, NJ

Jan 16, 2009 from 9:00 am to 11:00 am

Connecting With Kids Through Stories: Using Narratives To Facilitate Attachment In Adopted Children

Denise B. Lacher

This book is recommended by Dr. Gregory Keck -- co-author of Adopting the Hurt Child and Parenting the Hurt Child.

This book is designed to help parents form stories that can help children connect to them--often a seemingly impossible task.

Adopting the Hurt Child: Hope for Families With Special-Needs Kids : A Guide for Parents and Professionals

Gregory C. Keck
Regina M. Kupecky

This book is a critical read for anybody trying to decide whether to adopt a child from an abusive background. Adoption is not to be taken lightly and this book does not attempt to sugar-coat this way of growing your family.

Legal Risk Adoptions

When my wife and I adopted, we basically said, "If we foster this kid only to have her taken away and replaced in her biological family, we don't know if we could do it a second time."

When you engage in an legal-risk (or fost-adopt) adoption, you risk not ending up with the child you have taken into your home, begun to nurture, and hopefully have helped give a leg up in the world.

Are you a foster-adoptive parent? Have you lost a child that you were foster-adopting? Did the risk of losing the child that was placed into your home factor into your decision to fost-adopt or not?